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How To Make Money Run After You (Part 5)

Posted by on Oct 9, 2011 in Money Management | 40 comments

The First Step to Making Your Marriage a “Wealth Magnet”

“Who you marry is one of the most important decisions you will ever make if you want to be a success.”

This is not just my belief, but also the belief of one of the wealthiest persons on earth, Mr. John Gokongwei.

Quoting from an article by Wilson Lee Flores, Gokongwei says to him: “Marry a good wife…having a good wife is not only good support for life and career, it’s great to come home daily to good rest. He revealed that ever since he got married, he has stopped going out to parties and stayed at home every night with his wife.”

For the women reading this, it goes both ways, you also have to pick “Mr. Right”. I know, not as easy as it sounds right? Especially since I’m already taken (ha ha ha). Seriously, your “husband to be” or your “husband forever” (and you) hold the key to unbelievable wealth.

You can make it big on your own, but you will make it bigger if you have a happy marriage

After College, I knew I could make it big on my own, and I actually did. I created my own position at Islacom (1995), was “pirated” by Tech Pacific as a product Manager (1996) then was later hired by Lucent Technologies (1997) where I served as a Regional Technical Marketing Manager for Asia Pacific and China at age 24, the youngest one to hold that position. I lived the 5 star life, I spent money like there was no tomorrow, and I remember telling myself at one point in my career — “I have arrived”.

But that was short lived, because deep down inside, I felt empty and unfulfilled no matter how many promotions or accolades I received from my boss(s), peers and clients. I needed more meaning in my life. So, I started businesses on the side thinking it would fill the void. It didn’t. It was challenging, it tested me, it humbled me, but it did not fulfill me.

It only takes one person, to make all the wrong things in your life right.

Believe it or not, finding the best career was my second priority, my first priority was finding that one person that I was destined to spend the rest of my life with. Okay, I know it sounds very corny and cheesy, don’t worry, there’s more. I always felt that I looked like “Aga Mulach” (but a little more handsome) in the sense that I had the “looks” but could never get the relationship right (This was before Aga met Charlene Gonzales of course) because women always took advantage of me, treated me awful or was simply not the right fit. So when I met my wife, I instantly knew that she would be the one. She was “home” to me and she made all the wrong things in my life right.

Your spouse is NOT your equal; your spouse has to be MORE than you

One of the reasons why my marriage is a happy one is because I’ve always believed that I married not just the right person, but a person that is MORE than me. If I am smart, she is smarter. If I am kind, she is kinder, if I am lucky, she is luckier. And it goes both ways. My wife believes that I am MORE than her as well. And because we think that way, we treat each other with more respect, love and gratitude. We have known each other now for 11 years, married for 7 and up to now we never fail to say thank you, I appreciate you, and I love you every chance we get.

The first step in making your marriage a Wealth Magnet

So finally, here we are — The first step in making your marriage a wealth magnet is to first make sure that you have a happy and communicative marriage. So for those happily married, congratulations you can move on to the 2nd step which will be released a few weeks from now. For those who are married and are having some difficulties, here are a few things that I hope will help you to achieving the first step in making your marriage a wealth magnet:

Try this little experiment:

Smile and hug your husband / wife as soon as you see him / her. Chances are, your spouse will smile back and hug you too (or wonder what you are smoking). It is called the law of reciprocity: Do unto others what you want others to do for you. Remember?

Open up to your spouse:

Before you go out of the house to go to work or to just have fun, chances are, you will look at a mirror to see if you look presentable or at the very least, you look at a mirror to make sure that you don’t have anything unwanted hanging on your face, correct? Well your spouse is your mirror image, if you are feeling bad about anything, chances are your spouse is too. But if you are feeling good about something, then your spouse has to feel that way too. You and your spouse are cosmically connected to each other somehow, someway, you are more connected than you know.

Try this last experiment:

At the end of each day, ask your spouse this simple question: “How did your day go today?” If the other person does not respond, hold his/her hand and repeat the question and add this line: “I really want to know”. If the other person still doesn’t respond it’s probably because he / she is not used to you asking that question, give it time and ask again the next day. But in the mean time, you yourself have to start opening up by telling your spouse how your day went.

Tell me how your experiments go. Post a comment below or Email me at markso@wealthflowproject.com . For those who want to start this article series from the very beginning, please go to http://wealthflowproject.com and sign up for the wealth plan for FREE.

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  1. Doris

    Thanks for the share! Very useful info, looking to communicate!

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  2. al

    worth the try for the experiment, i will do this in coming weeks and let you know.

    regards
    al

  3. Nabila Conde

    Me and my husband do these. We always talk and open up after work. ;))

  4. CJ

    I cannot try this yet (I’m single) but I’ll keep this in mind.

  5. Glo

    100% correct! Open communication between husband and wife is really important to have a happy marriage!

  6. tes di

    i agree with you..my husband is someone who can inspire me to do better.. it takes humility to choose a partner who is better in you in some ways and it takes wit, creativity, tackfulness ( on my part) to push him to excel more

  7. Robert Rafson Chua

    mark,

    i have read this article of yours before but it never fails to inspire me, i believe that everyone needs help to be able to reach their dreams and ambitions in life and who better than your wife. thanks again

  8. Micheal Redfox

    whoah this blog is magnificent i love reading your articles. Keep up the great work! You know, a lot of people are searching around for this info, you can help them greatly.

  9. Torby papierowe

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  10. marvb

    agree… me and my wife are doing this. (“,)

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  12. marichu

    wow, im surprised you have tricks like this. i’ve been thinking how to encourage my spouse follow your advises here.. Now, i know where to start. Thanks Mark

  13. lolly leong

    Good day. I believe in this article. A wife should be a better wife and a husband should be a better husband too. If both work with full cooperation and support, a family will be blessed and successful.

  14. Pararoalo

    Hello! Just want to say thank you for this interesting article! =) Peace, Joy.

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  16. Annorybof

    Nice things you put in ur blog.I like to check them daily.

  17. Hosea Ritz

    Regards for helping out, great information.

  18. Chris

    Is this applicable to those who are in the dating stage? :)

  19. Noel

    Excellent article sir Mark! You’re absolutely correct about “your spouse is your mirror image”. I’ve tried your advice and it worked! Now I know! I’ll do my best to feel good, stay calm and be cool always so that my wife feels the same way too. Thanks for this.

  20. James

    This is so true.

  21. Aze

    Thank you for this reminder. This will help me decide. :) coz I am still single.

  22. bheng

    at first me and my husband dont communicate our feelings well but we became much closer to each other because of life’s trials.i definitely agree with improving ones communication,appreciation and respect for each other.

  23. Dexter

    Your recommendation may sound simple to a few but challenging to many. Making money requires time – and it is difficult to succeed if our spouses doesn’t support the idea.
    I will start doing this 7x a week !!

  24. Ruel A.

    Well the law of reciprocity is true. Positive outlook will attract positive things and blessings. Negative outlook will bring negative happenings. The most critical decision that a man/woman can do is to find a perfect or I would say “mr./ms. right” partner that would help and accompanied them the rest of their lives.

  25. buddy oberas

    Thanks Mark. with God’s will and guidance , despite some challenges along the way,still me and my wifey are happy and blessed to share stories and reflections on life, work and yes, financial matters everyday. As to the experiment, good thing that was and still holds true to both of us. Bless you more

  26. liza

    A must read for singles. Better to know it before the relationship than when into a relationship alteady. Thanks:)

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